2/11/2015

Buying The Best Books On Social Skills

By Beryl Dalton


There are those that are good at relationships and communication and others that really struggle. Fortunately there is plenty of help available for those who have problems in this area. Reading the best books on social skills is just one of the ways available and they can make a significant difference with the advice they offer.

The type of advice offered may be quite general or very specific. If it is too general, this is often unhelpful as the nuts and bolts of specific interactions are not addressed. The most practical, simple, down to earth ones are usually the most helpful where they address each kind of interaction, dealing in detail with each aspect.

Some books offer gimmicks and tricks for people to use. They learn how to project confidence even if they do not feel it at first. Others are more concerned with authentic ways for people to develop self confidence and encourage honesty and openness. There are guides written specifically for people with social anxiety disorder and other related disorders too that help to give them more confidence in relating.

Some guides are more general and others are more specific in nature. There are those that examine a whole range of social interactions. Others focus on a specific topic such as body language, small talk or interactions in a business context. Finding one to address a particular issue like handling conflict, relationships over 60, relating to a teenager and many others is easy with access to many online stores where comparison is possible in order to find the most suitable book for a particular situation.

These guides are often very practical in nature with principles that are not difficult to remember. People do not usually respond well to large chunks of theory and ideas that are more abstract than practical. Some of this literature goes to the other extreme, presenting hundreds of tips. Following all these tips can actually take away from the communication process. A good blend of principles and tips is often the best option.

Some literature focuses on how to deal with conflict. People often fear conflict in relationships and try to avoid it at all costs. However, it can be a healthy way to air out misunderstandings and reach common ground. Lashing out and withdrawing is unhelpful and ways of reaching healthy solutions are spelled out by authors dealing with this topic.

Body language is a popular topic with the discovery that it can convey more important cues than the words being said. Some people have real difficulty in picking up on these visual clues and reading about this will help them. Here again, if too much information is given about every possible signal the person could be projecting, this can be confusing and take away from the main issue of relating and communicating effectively. It does help to know the signals that reveal whether a person is receptive or not.

Many of the authors writing about this topic are experienced and qualified. They use internet stores to sell their works where readers are able to write reviews. Reading these reviews is often revealing and can help with selecting a book that will make a real difference in interpersonal relating. Even those who feel that they have no trouble relating will often benefit from reading a book or two of this nature.




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