Most young people take class at school for wide ranging subjects of a purely academic sort, but schools also provide more practical classes like home economics and shop. Sadly, few if anyone trains the young in how to handle themselves in an important social or business setting, despite such a gathering's potential for making all sorts of advancement. Luckily, the average college graduate and non-graduate alike can complete their education with books on small talk.
There will always be those among us with an in-born talent for breezy conversation, people who always seem to be able to captivate without ever offending. Frequently, such people turn out to have been raised in elite circumstances, which demonstrates that these books provide the general public with a skill that had usually been a province of the country club set. After all, one of the advantages of an elite education has always been about the inculcation of a manner rather than academic excellence as such.
Many people have the intelligence and ability to succeed, but are held back in subtle ways because of their blue collar manners. Such people are nearly a stock character in old novels. They are the just-arrived wealthy who are disliked by the old money types who party at the Hamptons, but who are just too powerful to avoid completely. Characters like this are immediately marked by their unsophisticated conversation.
In any number of situations, being able to make good conversation can be a tremendous advantage. Dating life is among the more obvious of these spheres of life, a sphere that is not just about conversing with a date over dinner but the right kind of flirting at a dinner party. By "dating life" one also includes random moments when one meets someone in a supermarket, at work, or on the street.
The business world provides all sorts of situations in which talent at breezy conversation can really give one an edge. No small number of success stories begin with a good impression made on the right person while standing together on the same street corner. On top of this is the more obvious business occasion, such as wining and dining a client, an interview for a job, or banter before the close of a sale.
Most of us remember social occasions which seemed lightly festive at first, but were rife with conflict and intrigue just under the surface. Something as innocent as an art opening can be quite nearly a battlefield if one is an ambitious young painter. However, in such a setting it is wise not to parade one's ambition, but to affect a casual attitude.
One's humor should be fresh, quick to the point, and slow to offend even the most sensitive. It is worth while to cultivate at least a passing interest in many subjects without showing oneself to be overwhelmed with passion about them. Above all, one should learn to find what is likable in the people one encounters.
The most coarse behavior of all is to ignore people who are not useful to one's ambitions. Befriending any and all, at least for the length of a party, is the best way to make oneself a valued guest. The best way to uncover whether one has made a success of oneself at the party is whether one is invited to future parties.
There will always be those among us with an in-born talent for breezy conversation, people who always seem to be able to captivate without ever offending. Frequently, such people turn out to have been raised in elite circumstances, which demonstrates that these books provide the general public with a skill that had usually been a province of the country club set. After all, one of the advantages of an elite education has always been about the inculcation of a manner rather than academic excellence as such.
Many people have the intelligence and ability to succeed, but are held back in subtle ways because of their blue collar manners. Such people are nearly a stock character in old novels. They are the just-arrived wealthy who are disliked by the old money types who party at the Hamptons, but who are just too powerful to avoid completely. Characters like this are immediately marked by their unsophisticated conversation.
In any number of situations, being able to make good conversation can be a tremendous advantage. Dating life is among the more obvious of these spheres of life, a sphere that is not just about conversing with a date over dinner but the right kind of flirting at a dinner party. By "dating life" one also includes random moments when one meets someone in a supermarket, at work, or on the street.
The business world provides all sorts of situations in which talent at breezy conversation can really give one an edge. No small number of success stories begin with a good impression made on the right person while standing together on the same street corner. On top of this is the more obvious business occasion, such as wining and dining a client, an interview for a job, or banter before the close of a sale.
Most of us remember social occasions which seemed lightly festive at first, but were rife with conflict and intrigue just under the surface. Something as innocent as an art opening can be quite nearly a battlefield if one is an ambitious young painter. However, in such a setting it is wise not to parade one's ambition, but to affect a casual attitude.
One's humor should be fresh, quick to the point, and slow to offend even the most sensitive. It is worth while to cultivate at least a passing interest in many subjects without showing oneself to be overwhelmed with passion about them. Above all, one should learn to find what is likable in the people one encounters.
The most coarse behavior of all is to ignore people who are not useful to one's ambitions. Befriending any and all, at least for the length of a party, is the best way to make oneself a valued guest. The best way to uncover whether one has made a success of oneself at the party is whether one is invited to future parties.
